Monday, September 17, 2012

10 Things to Remember If I Ever Get Married Again

Tonight's cocktail is an avocado daiquiri. Don't make that face - it's yummy. I have to credit inspiration to my friend Monica. Awhile back, she tweeted a number of times from an event about DHA and brain health. One of her tweets involved the health benefits of avocado. I love brain health, and I love avocado, so I decided to research avocado cocktails. Now, Monica has clarified in the interim that this was about promoting "good fats" and brain health for children, but my kids are already smarter than I am, and they won't touch avocado, anyway. Given that I can no longer remember the names of people more than 30 seconds after being introduced to them, I have to look out for my own brain health.

I started with this recipe (serves 2) - 2 oz each of light rum, golden rum, and simple syrup, 1/2 oz each of lemon and lime juices and half & half, 1/4 avocado, toss in blender with ice, blend, enjoy. After tasting, I threw the mixture back in the blender with another 1/4 avocado. For the brain health. You don't taste the avocado much - it's very, very subtle and pleasant. It's a mellow, creamy drink that's just the right blend of sweet and sour. Highly recommended.

For fun, I decided to participate in this week's Monday Listicle, and the topic was weddings. No, I'm definitely not engaged. It's just that I see so much Pinteresting and kvelling on a lot of female-oriented message boards and blogs about weddings, and at this remove from that phase in my life, I'm bemused by it. Not that I haven't been there, but the view from here (40, divorced, single mom, long distance relationship, military boyfriend) is different from the one I had at 25. So, if I ever get married again (IF), here's the deal.
  1. I am going to wear whatever the hell color and style of dress I want. Given that I've birthed two babies, we can all concede that I'm no longer a virgin. I don't look good in white (or ivory, or shell, or whatever). I'm thinking purple.
But not like this.
2.  I'll either elope or do something very, very small - parents, children, siblings, nice dinner.

3.  Short, nonreligious ceremony, with roles for the kids.

4.  There will be no place for melodrama, no matter who it's coming from. Including me.

5.  The ceremony is not going to complete my life or change my children, my parents, my prospective spouse, his children, his parents, either of our ex-spouses, or me. It's just a day - ideally a really good day that leads to other great things, but it's not magic.

6.  There's going to be a prenup, and I, oddly enough, consider that to be an act of love. If I love someone enough to marry him, I love him enough to make sure that he's OK no matter what the future holds. I would expect him to feel the same way.

7.  Any kids involved will know that they are welcome and loved.

8.  The cake is going to be delicious, moist, rich, and chocolate.

9.  There will be lovely signature cocktails (of course).

10.  There could also be some of this:

Or this:

But I confess that in my fantasies, it's more like this:

Hey, a girl can dream.


  1. I am a lover of avocados, but I must admit, I'm not too sure about that drink.
    As for the wedding, I do agree a smaller wedding does sound appealing. For me it would be on some white sand beach somewhere.

    1. I was a bit skeptical, too, but I'll try anything once. It really just tastes like lime and sweetness, with a creamy texture from the avocado, even when I doubled the amount. I'm a big fan of the beach idea!

  2. Thanks for the shout-out. I'll admit I was kidding when I suggested you develop an avocado cocktail, but this one actually sounds pretty appealing. I will have to try it - you know, in the name of research. But you know I will always love you more than I love avocado (and that's saying a lot).

    1. You should know by now that I will mix almost anything with alcohol and try to drink it. I love you more than avocado, too!

  3. Sounds nice! I don't know, the balloon dress would sure be interesting...

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  5. I am avocado mad but never thought of making a drink out of them... HMMMM. Never say never ha? I think your next wedding will be a swell affair. I expect an invitation ;)


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