Monday, June 16, 2014

Blog Tour: Field Trip!

Today, kids, it's time for a field trip! Let's be careful out there!


Before we commence, of course, a cocktail. If we're going with Mad Men, it should be a martini with extra olives, don't you think?



My fellow blogger and friend, Jessica Azar, runs the wonderful blog Herd Management, and she put me on her blog tour map last week. The tourist buses and paparazzi have been hounding me nonstop, so I really need to send them somewhere else. Jessica, by the way, is a happily married SAHM to four kids ages 7, 6, 4 and 2, to whom she affectionately refers as “The Herd.” She writes about their adventures and misadventures, as well as her experiences as a mom living with Bipolar Disorder, when she actually has time to sit down. Jessica has been featured on websites such as Mamapedia and BLUNTmoms. As a writer and Mental Health Advocate, Jessica is co-authoring an anthology which will be called Laughter is the Best Medicine: Using Humor to Survive Mental Illness. When she’s not wrangling kids, writing or smooching her husband, Jessica enjoys running and drinking single malt Scotch in the evenings. SlĂ inte! Be sure to read Four Theories on the Fate of Missing Sippy Cups and The Worst Dirty Diaper Explosion EVER.

Let's start the field trip with my answers to a few questions, because I know you're all dying to learn whence cometh my genius.

What Am I Working On?

Blog-wise, I've been boning up on (heheheheheh, boning) my graphics and social marketing skills to grow my readership. When I first started this blog, I thought I would just post my deepest thoughts for tens of readers, but as it turns out, I'm way more of an exhibitionist about it and would like to draw other people to my writing. My next post will be about how my marriage ended in Elmo's World. Stay tuned!

Aside from Middletini, I've been a bit super-secret squirrel about this until recently, but I'm working on a novel. It's about a woman whose husband dies tragically in the first paragraph, and how she salvages her life (which had already gone off the rails once via a prior affair and divorce) by renovating a classic car with her late husband's transgendered daughter. Set in a small (imaginary) Appalachian college town, it's about how family is who you say it is, and how people can sometimes surprise you.

How Does My Work Differ From Others Of Its Genre?

I'm not exactly sure what my genre is, because I blog about so many different things. I certainly don't hold myself out as an example of how to do anything in the household/parenting/relationship realm, because I can barely manage my own shizznit, much less tell other people what to do with theirs. Best case, you could read my blog as a cautionary tale about exactly what NOT to do in those areas.

I do bring a clarity of perspective that comes from watching my whole concept of how my life was supposed to turn out as I headed into middle age go completely down the crapper, and not only surviving, but thriving. Most women who write about divorce do so from the perspective of having been cheated on, abused, and/or abandoned by deadbeat husbands, with the implication that moral and responsible people stay in their marriages and make them work no matter what, unless they're being cheated on, abused, and/or abandoned. My point of view is very different, because I ended my marriage, not because I was cheated on, abused, or abandoned (other than emotionally), and I am 100% certain I did the right thing. It wasn't fun, and I wouldn't recommend the experience generally, but in my situation, it was what I needed to do to save myself. My ex husband is not a bad person, but he was not good for me. I am a better person and a better parent now that I am out of that marriage. That's the kind of thing I needed to hear 5 years ago when I was losing my damn mind, so I'm trying to pay it forward.

Why Do I Write/Create What I Do?

Our society has so many messages for women about how we should feel and what we should be, and social media just shows us the highlight reel of other people's lives. I know that many women feel isolated because they don't match society's images in terms of their looks, their children, their relationships, and often their career choices. If they're going through something ugly, whether it's a shitty day with a kid who's acting like an asshole, or an imploding marriage, or they're behind the 8-ball at work and want to punch the condescending PTA bake sale mom in her rhinoplastied nose, they don't feel validated because nobody's willing to talk about those things. Except me, because I have nothing to lose by talking about the things that other people only think but don't say out loud. Inappropriate humor is a great coping mechanism, and the occasional adult beverage can be quite helpful at times.

How Does Your Writing/Creating Process Work?

There's supposed to be a process? I have a full-time paying job and am a single mom, so I don't have hours each day to block off for writing projects. I wish I did. I am trying to develop better discipline about writing at least something every day, whether it's part of a blog post or a few paragraphs of my novel, even if it's only 30 minutes, because that's better than nothing. When I sit down to write, No matter what I'm writing, I start with a kernel of an idea, and I pretend like I'm having a conversation with a group of my most appreciative and funny friends. What will reach them? What turn of phrase will make them snork Chardonnay out their noses? What would I most need to hear if I were them? That's how I develop the prose.

Now, on to the next stop. Hands and feet inside the bus please.

First, we have Stacey Gill, the mastermind behind the humor blog, One Funny Motha, a site she sees as a refuge for rational people. Predicated on the belief that parenting is not nor ever should be an extreme sport, One Funny Motha provides incisive cultural commentary also known as common sense. Her work has appeared on such sites as The Huffington Post, BlogHer and Mamalode, and in 2014 she was named one of the Top 10 Funny Parent Bloggers of 2014 by Voice Books. Perhaps most importantly, she is the proud founder of the Detached Parenting Movement, a child-rearing model she single-handedly developed without any guidance or advanced degrees in child psychology. The woman's a genius! Be sure to check out these posts: Detached Parenting: The Only Way to Parent and When Parenting Just Isn't For You.

Next is Sarah Marie from Yoga Pants Mafia, where she neither does yoga nor sells pants. Sarah is a recovering attorney living in New Orleans with her real-life Stabler, her adorable daughter, and a pack of four unruly dogs. She can usually be found on her patio, drinking cheap wine and practicing her mad dance skills. She's hilarious, y'all - check out Hot Yoga and Frotch. But she has a serious side, too! See One Of Those Days: A Promise to My Daughter.

Finally, we have Lisa R. Petty from Petty Thoughts. Lisa has been writing since she was seven, when she decided to write better stories for Saturday morning cartoons.  Throughout her adult life, Lisa has been a composition and creative writing teacher. She has worked with students of all ages, from elementary to college.   Lisa is also a former stand-up comic. Here is the proof. When she is not writing or teaching, Lisa enjoys baking, reading, and spending time with her husband and son. As a hermit, Lisa also spends a lot of time talking to her three cats and two dogs.  While her three cats believe that she was put on this earth to hold them, Lisa does get out sometimes, usually with cat fur on her clothes. Check out these posts: Confessions From the Cat's Desk and A Letter to the Dog Who Is Clearly Not Mine.

OK, everyone, you have a LOT of reading to do. Enjoy!

14 comments:

  1. That photo makes me really want a cigarette. Oh, for the old days!

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    1. LOL! There are so few vices left to us anymore! Thanks for stopping by.

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  2. I love these posts, it's always so much fun to find out about other bloggers processes. And your book sounds very interesting!!!

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    1. Thanks! I feel so vulnerable telling people I'm writing it. Next thing you know, they'll be expecting me to FINISH it!

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  3. I was thinking the same thing, Carol! Why are the most fun things so bad for us? Kathleen, Imma pimp ya, MyLove! I love your introductions!

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    1. Pattie, you are my favorite pimpette. Mwah!

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  4. Loved learning more about you! And I love all 5 blogs in here. That's cause enough for a celebratory drink. Cheers!

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  5. Hey, I just got back here to finish reading your post, & I love it. I feel the same damn way about society & the highlight reel & all the bullshit we are fed as women which was the impetus behind starting my blog, too. I wanted to talk about the truth & make women/mothers feel supported & raised up not torn down & inadequate. I love what you said about your divorce. And, can't wait to read about how your "marriage ended in Elmo's World." And your novel sounds very interesting.

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    1. Thanks for letting me feature you! I love how blogging has given people an outlet to tell their truth. It's so liberating.

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  6. Loved this and all the posts! We need to get together and watch Mad Men sometime over martinis!

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  7. Thank you so much for having me! I take my martinis extra extra dirty :)

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    1. Oh, I think we all know that you're a dirty, dirty girl. :)

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